I have seen members of my family and friends hide the truth to avoid hurting someone’s feelings. I’ve also seen people hiding facts about life in order to avoid preventing someone else from being let down or feel as if they are letting someone down.
Telling the truth and being honest are signs of growing up. A lot of individuals fail to realize this fact. As a child I would hide things from my parents because I was fearful of their disapproval or the fact that I knew I shouldn’t be doing it. As an adult I’m able to express and do things I one hid. I don’t have to lie to my Mother about where I’m going or where I have been. I don’t have to hide the fact that I will drink a glass of wine or a couple beers; I am an adult now and I know I’m free to make my own choices.
When my little sister does things, at the age of 20, she still hides them from my parents. I can’t quite figure it out yet. Nor can I figure out why she tells me some of the horrible things she does to boyfriends and friends. It bothers me that she won’t tell a majority of those who are closest to her the truth about what she is doing yet she expects to be treated like an adult. Telling the truth is acting like an adult, it’s standing up for what you believe in and then following through with it.
Which brings me to my next question, does it not hurt someone to lie to them even if you’re hiding the truth? When someone finds out later on about the truth will it not hurt them worse. Not only were they lied to but you also did something they may not find appropriate…. it’s like a double kick in the face.
It is better to know the truth, being lied to is never fun. Trustiness is build from the telling of the truth, and creates a strong bond.
Tell a girl her dress doesn’t make her look fat, the fact that she’s fat makes her look fat isn’t telling the truth. It’s trying to hurt someone. Telling her that the dress doesn’t look good on her is telling the truth. So there is a fine line. It’s a matter of growing up, and just knowing where the line is drawn between hurting someone and telling the truth.
Don’t lie to me, even if it’s about minimal things. This is how I lose friends. I’d rather know my haircuts sucks than to have everyone make fun of me behind my back.
One small amount of truthy hurt, can prevent a large plethora of pain.