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Is it always better to know the truth, even when it hurts?

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I have seen members of my family and friends hide the truth to avoid hurting someone’s feelings. I’ve also seen people hiding facts about life in order to avoid preventing someone else from being let down or feel as if they are letting someone down.

Telling the truth and being honest are signs of growing up. A lot of individuals fail to realize this fact. As a child I would hide things from my parents because I was fearful of their disapproval or the fact that I knew I shouldn’t be doing it. As an adult I’m able to express and do things I one hid. I don’t have to lie to my Mother about where I’m going or where I have been. I don’t have to hide the fact that I will drink a glass of wine or a couple beers; I am an adult now and I know I’m free to make my own choices.

When my little sister does things, at the age of 20, she still hides them from my parents. I can’t quite figure it out yet. Nor can I figure out why she tells me some of the horrible things she does to boyfriends and friends. It bothers me that she won’t tell a majority of those who are closest to her the truth about what she is doing yet she expects to be treated like an adult. Telling the truth is acting like an adult, it’s standing up for what you believe in and then following through with it.

Which brings me to my next question, does it not hurt someone to lie to them even if you’re hiding the truth? When someone finds out later on about the truth will it not hurt them worse. Not only were they lied to but you also did something they may not find appropriate…. it’s like a double kick in the face.

It is better to know the truth, being lied to is never fun. Trustiness is build from the telling of the truth, and creates a strong bond.

Tell a girl her dress doesn’t make her look fat, the fact that she’s fat makes her look fat isn’t telling the truth. It’s trying to hurt someone. Telling her that the dress doesn’t look good on her is telling the truth. So there is a fine line. It’s a matter of growing up, and just knowing where the line is drawn between hurting someone and telling the truth.

Don’t lie to me, even if it’s about minimal things. This is how I lose friends. I’d rather know my haircuts sucks than to have everyone make fun of me behind my back.

One small amount of truthy hurt, can prevent a large plethora of pain.

First impressions

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First impressions are very important to meeting new people. But I think those who tell the population are wrong about what the reason behind it is. The first impression is most important because it’s you’re once change to make someone want you around, not because it defines you as a person.

Seems like every time I meet a new person, girls particularly, over time they change. This is not a good change either – you know the one where they feel comfortable around you and are okay with farting. No, the change that takes place is an evil one.

For some reason, at first, girls want me to think they are sweet, innocent, and dumb. While guys want to feel smart, strong, and stable. I find both of these to be wrong 95% of the time. Girls are usually bitter, conniving, and dumb; guys are usually dumb, scared, and running with the punches hoping not to be hit by a fist.

It hit me today that this was the case. I met someone new a few days back and over time she’s remained the same person to me, hasn’t quite changed yet. While to my friend she was her true self  (I’ve observed them speaking – sometimes without her knowing)… or so it seems. I can’t quite tell if she knows who she is well enough to act normal around someone. I feel as if she continues to act the part of which she believes I see her as until she knows she has me trapped as a friend before changing to her real self. Or she is just so fake, she acts like someone else around different people.

This is the same with guys. New friends, or friends of friends try to act different towards me than they do to the normal crowd of friends that merged our meeting. Seems like they act different to them as they do to me. To me they act like I mentioned above, but to their long lived friends they act weaker.

I’ve decided to believe that ever person I meet is lying to me, and to consider their personality the complete opposite to that of which they’re displaying. This way, I’ll treat a sweet girl like a slut, a slut like a sweet girl. A jock as a nerd, a nerd as a jock. I’d like to see how they react, and if I can bring the true being out of them sooner. This way I don’t waste my time with people…. I’m too busy for it. I’m no longer going to let a first impression count when meeting someone new.